Discovering a Problem

These are several questions to ask yourself when attempting to determine whether or not you are in
the midst of an abusive relationship. See also: Warning Signs.

Does your spouse:

Blame you for his/her problems?

Call you derogatory names?

Constantly belittle you?

Always check up on you or refuse to let you out of his/her sight?

Tell you that you are not deserving?

Control your wardrobe, telling you what to wear?

Control your finances?

Make your decisions for you without consulting you?

Prevent you from seeing your family or friends?

Frequently accuse you of cheating on him/her?

Become violent when angry, punching walls and breaking objects?

Force you to have sex when you are unwilling?

Shove you?

Hit you?

Kick, choke, or otherwise physically harm you?

Show you a weapon and threaten to kill you?

Otherwise make threats to kill you?